Have you completed all the positions and other erotic practices in your sexual relationship, and now you want to try something new? If you are searching for new avenues of pleasure, the BDSM community will offer you fun and unique sexual experiences based on you and your partner’s power and control. BDSM is going to give you and your partner such stimulation that you both have never experienced before.
In general, BDSM involves one partner acting as dominant and the other as submissive. Both the partners achieve sexual pleasure and satisfaction while performing their roles during their sessions. BDSM often included the use of belts, handcuffs, straps, ropes, blindfolds, and many other accessories.
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Below are some ways how to perform BDSM on your partner:
- Bondage play
Bondage is a sexual practice in which tools are used to control one partner during a sexual encounter. The most common restraints used are rope, leather straps, bondage tape, ties, handcuffs, spreader bars, ball gags, blindfolds, and sometimes chains. The bonds aim to prevent the partner’s senses or freedom of movement from placing control in the other partner’s hands and heighten the sexual stimulation.
Bondage can be as basic or elaborate as the partners want it. Partners new to bondage can keep it simple with silk scarves or cuffs. Slowly take the bondage play to an advanced level to heighten the sexual tension. The bondage play will give you the best erotic and aesthetic stimulation you have been craving.
- Discipline
In the discipline game play, the dominant partner will set rules that the submissive partner needs to obey. The regulations set by the dominant partner can be sexual in nature (like requiring oral sex at particular times) or indirectly erotic (like forbidding speaking out of turn). If the submissive partner breaks a rule, the dominant partner will punish the submissive one, which includes withholding pleasure, inflicting pain (from spanking to flogging), or assigning additional restrictions. Both partners experience erotic sexual pleasure in discipline role-play.
- Dominance and Submission
Dominance and submission’s primary focus is on power and energy flow between partners. Usually, one partner dominates the other physically, mentally, emotionally, or sexually during a particular sexual encounter, often known as a session, and explores the submissive partner’s desires, thoughts, and feelings which guides the couple toward mutual pleasure.
BDSM lovers who like to switch between dominant and submissive roles in a relationship or even undergo an exchange in power during a single encounter are known as switches. Dominants often include specific outfits or attire to use during their session. For instance, leather outfits, maid costumes, collars, leashes, and riding crops are some accessories to help the couple reach their climax.
- Sadomasochism
Sadomasochism is a BDSM play in which individuals derive sexual pleasure and a rush of endorphins from inflicting or receiving pain which is always consensual. Those who love to enjoy and give this pain are known as sadists, while those who want to feel and accept this pain are called masochists. The pain inflicted is physical most of the time. Accessories like whips, clamps, paddles, electric stimulation, and toys are used through humiliation or total submission.
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The dominant partner derives sexual stimulation by degrading, humiliating, binding, and inflicting pain on their sex partner, whereas the submissive one who receives this mistreatment claims to derive sexual pleasure. Besides being a dangerous form of sex, sadomasochism will heighten the sexual tension between you and your sex partner.
- Breast Torture
Breasts are the most sensitive part of a woman’s body and are often the focus of varying forms of pain and pleasure during kinky play. Breast torture involves bondage techniques, wax play, suction devices, whipping and flogging, nipple clamps, temperature play, and many more. For breast play fans, trying suction can be a blast.
Experimenting with wax is high on the intensity scale. The fun thing about using safety candles is that when the wax first hits the breast, it gets as intense as the wax subsequently builds up, forming an insulating layer. In this way, the sensation can go from a sharp spike to something similar to a warming massage.
- Electro stimulation and electro play
Some lovers of hardcore sex love to bring devices and toys into their BDSM experience. The electro stimulation takes things to the next level. Electro play involves toys and implements that use electricity, including EMS units, violet wants, or even an electric fly swatter. The sensation is generally prickly and not as painful or scary instead, it will give you more stimulation.
A Tens unit is frequently used in an electro play. The various methods for delivering electricity come from painful nipple clamps, dildos, and even medical-looking pads. Many insertable and vibrating sex toys have electronic components. Your dominant partner will love to make you wet using these components.
- Foot Worship
Foot worship is not strictly a fetish for feet but the worship of feet in a submissive manner. This BDSM involves an element of humiliation, with the submissive being good enough to be worshipped and served at their dominant partner’s feet. The BDSM foot worshiper completely surrenders to the power and beauty of their Master or Mistresses’ toes, soles, and arches.
Before getting started, first give a massage on her beautiful feet, try to obey what she says as she is the boss in the bed, and you must follow her instructions. Buy her silk stockings as the silky texture of the socks will provide you with more than enough slides.
These were the several ways of BDSM. Any BDSM requires a basic knowledge of BDSM safety. Some BDSM is highly dangerous; one should only perform them with additional BDSM education available at online courses or workshops.
Before going for a BDSM, it is essential to take your partner’s consent, discuss what each of you would enjoy sexually, and try to share your limits and boundaries. If you are a beginner, you do not need to worry; start it slowly with the basics like hair pulling, blindfolding, biting, and many other erotic things.